Showing posts with label Women's Issues. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Women's Issues. Show all posts

Sunday, October 2, 2011

PINK!

Blush, coral, fuchsia, rose and salmon.  These are all words used to describe hues that surround the color Pink!

While Pink has always been associated with baby girls, it has certainly evolved.  The color Pink has even made it's way into fashion, draped on the backs of the most highly styled men! 

The result of a diluted affair between red and white, Pink has it's roots in many positive and not so positive origins.  I will choose to highlight the positive and it's symbol for women's empowerment and achievement.  This has also been strongly intertwined into Breast Cancer Awareness.  Women are not the only gender to suffer from the disease, men too, are affected at the rate of 1 in 1,000 over a lifetime.  This is according to the American Cancer Society.

Almost everyone has been affect by Breast Cancer in some way, be it a family member or friend.  Let's keep this awareness going, not only during the month of October, but also throughout the year.  Tweet, Facebook and Blog about it!  Get folks aware of what we can do to volunteer or donate to help researches find effective treatments and eventually a cure!  Here are some great places to start:








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Saturday, March 6, 2010

Career Divas, Moms, Social Networking PlayThangs, Women of ALL circles...This one is for YOU!


AH-HA! I knew the title would not let me down! So, you're here now...you might as well read on!

In light of the recent Tiger-gate extravagonzo...People have been shocked that I have not blogged about it yet...A few of my girls were like: 'Renee, we know YOU have something to say'...and I do...though it took me a while...here it is...

Ladies, we have to do better! A Twitter friend said recently that Women are crying out for help on the internet and I think they are right. I never really thought about it, until recently. We parade ourselves...backsides hanging out in g-strings, breasts popping out of our tops and not always because we are feeling sexy and empowered, but it is often with the hopes of gaining attention from our male counterparts. What is happening to us? Is this all we have to offer? Why are we so desperate for this type of attention? To make us feel validated? Do we have abandonment issues and grasping for a connection? Is it that our day is not complete, until we've given some random dude a reason to drag his tongue across the ground? What is this preoccupation with sex and it's addictive hold on us?

In the past few years, I have learned that this addiction is JUST like an addiction to alcohol or any other drug. It evokes the same chemical changes in the brain. That was shocking to me, since I thought it was "all mental" and you could "control it at any time." Then, I had to think...Would you give a bottle of alcohol to a friend that was suffering from alcoholism? Would you supply crack to a loved one that was a crack addict? Of course not! So, the sexually suggestive innuendo...even the ones fed to us through the media...are all a game of mind control. They feed into our addiction...It is no longer us in control! It is a high when we get our "fix" and a literal withdrawal when we don't.

This game masks itself as attraction and love...when really, we are just using each other for temporary highs...a fantasy. Ladies, we even get to the point that we don't even care if it is infatuation...we just want to be needed at any cost. I have been there at one time, so I understand.  There are no more excuses!  RISE UP!

Sisters, don't you know you are worth more than this? This sexually aggressive prowess you think is just "cool"...defaces you, dehumanizes you...you have reduced yourself to nothing more than an object for any man's pleasure. What we Women have is sacred...from the Most High! We were the ones blessed with a womb to carry and grow human life...what we have should not be shared with just anyone!  Your pictures, videos and suggestive messages become faceless...a thing to be toyed with...an object.  RISE UP!

Ladies, you never know who is lurking out on the web. Men, who are our sons...husbands...fathers...fall victim to this game everyday. You only know the online persona...the artist...the musician...the designer...the fashion guru...you only know the part of the person they want you to see. Behind that profile is a whole life that came before you, that you know nothing about, even if you think you do, from idle chatter. Somewhere we have become lost, conceited and gotten carried away...we have begun to live two different lives and it has messed us up badly!  Now, don't get me wrong Ladies...this is not all on us. It is both men and Women...we are equally guilty. It seems that our unhappiness has turned our attention to crying out for help in all the wrong places.  RISE UP!

We are Mothers, Wives and Daughters...regardless if our life is a struggle or not...We at least owe it to ourselves and our beautiful children to get the help and support we need! Our domestic abuses...father abandonment issues...tragic family deaths...we can't let these things hold us captive, in a perpetual, compulsive state of wanting to please.  Let a man appreciate you for YOU...Stop fakin' your love for whatever HE is into at the moment...No, you don't have to know the scores to ALL the football games on that day.  No, you don't have to know all the latest hip-hop albums out this week, to be in on the "cool talk".  No, you are not some ride-or-die chick just 'cause a "well-known rapper" re-tweeted your tweet.  Yes, take care of your man...fulfill his needs...but REMEMBER...he got some work to do as well!  Just sayin'!

I know we cannot control the world and it's actions, but I feel like we have sat back, far too long, waiting for the REST of the world to change. Be SEXY and TAKE CHARGE Ladies! But, do it for YOU...Not to prove and live up to any ideal of what a Woman should be!  RISE UP!!!

Stay Lovely!

Photo Credit: Morrison Graphics
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NO MORE CREAMY CRACK!


Good Hair opens nationwide October 23, 2009! THANK YOU Chris Rock, for showing the ins and outs of the struggle with self image in the Black Community. For me, I have decided to abandon the creamy crack. Don't worry, I will wait while you hyperlink to read the definition... :) I stopped straight-perming my hair 7 years ago. I have COMPLETELY gone natural and I now get my own hair done up in twists or braids. It was a VERY hard decision and I have to admit, I almost broke down and gave in to the perm a few weeks ago. LOL! I saw how long my hair had gotten and thought how "luxurious" it would look being straightened. I decided that was it! I am done with the burning perms of the creamy crack addiction and I will continue to be a 100% natural hair girl! Now, I don't fault any Black woman for perming her hair, since I did it for many years, but I am at a different time of my life now. I like this look and I am sticking to it! With that said, I look forward to Chris Rock's new documentary and would love to compare notes with anyone who goes to see it. If you were fortunate to see it in the select cities recently, feel free to comment and share your thoughts.
Click the picture to see the trailer and as always...Stay Lovely!

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I Didn't Know My Own Strength...

I just came back from seeing I Can Do Bad All By Myself (a wonderful movie by Tyler Perry). IT WAS AMAAAAAZING! I actually went by myself...something that I needed to do. We all need to do that from time-to-time, take in a movie on your own...walk by the lake, on your own...take a drive, on your own...It is inspiring to hear your thoughts without outside distractions. I almost feel that some folks are scared to think, so they drown themselves in the everyday noise of the world. I love a REALLY good movie and this was one of them! And please...when you go to a Tyler Perry movie...don't bring negative people with you...bring positive, uplifting, mature, fun folks along who will actually GET IT.

Folks keep talking about Mr. Perry's movies as if the crazy and zany Madea is all there is to see! In Mr. Perry's movies there always lies a message...ALWAYS...just don't be laughing so hard that you miss it! I laughed, I cried, I got mad and laughed some more!!!  PLEASE support this movie! I don't care what background you come from, you will appreciate it!  You will be brought up and down emotionally...you will even get a little "church" before it's all over...LOL!  Don't miss this film...the message is URGENT!

*My Thanks*
If you ever read this Mr. Perry, THANK YOU!!! You are a SPECIAL gift from God and I am SERIOUS about that! There is a reason why you are here and do what you do! I wish nothing but success for you and all the endeavors you set your brilliant mind to! I also look forward to the new movie Precious, coming out November 6th!

Seeing this wonderful film, also led me to post this clip of the incomparable Whitney Houston. I know most of us have seen her recent two-part interview on Oprah and you haven't, please do! This woman has risen from the ashes into a phoenix! Her story mirrors Mr. Perry's movie to a tee! The words of her new song, speak volumes to anyone that will actually listen...Enjoy and always Stay Lovely!



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MENTAL HEALTH - ERASING THE SHAME!


Some of you may have been hearing about Ms. Maia Campbell, former star of the In The House sitcom from the mid 1990's.  The show also starred Rap Superstar, LL Cool J and Debbie Allen of the Musical Movie Fame and later the Fame television series.

This story has been circulating around for some time, but it all came to a fever pitch when video surfaced on the web of a seemingly drug-induced Campbell yelling at a guy with a camera from inside a car.  When one takes a very close look at the video, it is clear there is more than drugs happening to this young lady.  You can see that she is suffering from a mental illness as well.  It is very hard to see someone like this when you once remembered them as a popular TV starlet.  It made me VERY sad and I felt compelled to blog about it.

Mental health, especially in the Black community, rarely gets talked about and we all have that "crazy uncle" that the family pokes fun about from time-to-time.  It is apparent that we need to start taking mental health much more seriously than we have in the past.  There are so many great organizations out there that cater to mental wellness, but still continues to be a taboo subject that folks feel ashamed to discuss or address. Born and raised in NYC, I always heard the seemingly idle chatter of homeless people on the subway day-after-day.  It comes with the territory if you are a NY'er.  It used to be white noise to me until one day I really started to listen and realized, they once had full, bright, thriving lives and careers.

We always seem to step over these folks and brush them to the side.  If you ever took the time to listen to their stories, you would hear about their children, former jobs and the situations that led them to where they are now.  It is actually pretty interesting and I never really paid attention to what they said until a homeless woman sat next to me on the F Train and I thought: Oh boy, here we go!  She offered me a piece of candy, which I smiled and declined, but she began to talk and I could see she just wanted the company, so we talked.  I got some uncomfortable stares from folks sitting across from me, but it seemed to fade after a few minutes.  Mrs. Kaplan, that was the name she said I could call her.  I felt like I was talking to one of my teachers from grade school.  Little did I know, she had taught in the NYC school system for over 20 years!  She and her husband were married for close to 25 years and he was an accomplished artist, with exhibits around the city.  They had a great life, three successful children, all working "big-wig" jobs in Manhattan.

Then, in 1994, her husband died in a brutal car accident.  Not too long afterward, she buried her mother and father due to old age.  It was a rough time for her and she said, she never quite got back to herself.   She ended up having a mental breakdown and lost her job as a result.  Soon after that, she became very paranoid of everything around her and she could not understand why.  She eventually lost her apartment and found herself living in the shelters and streets of NYC.  She contacts her children through the shelters, but it is never consistently.  She said they could never wrap thier head around her mental condition and she doesn't want to be a burden to them.  She was a teacher, afterall!  Why could she not "get it together"...words that her own children had uttered in past arguments on deciding her treatment.  This made me sad and angry all at the same time, but I listened quietly and she told me about her husband who had suffered from being bipolar, as well as bouts with several phobias.  With medication and some behavioral treatment, he was able to live a relatively normal life, but did suffer from "episodes" every now and then.  She also spoke of how it was so tough to explain a disease you could not physically see.  Mr. Kaplan was never able to hold on to a 9-5 job because it would prove to be too overwhelming for him and once someone got word he was "sick", he would be mysteriously let go.   I  was so engrossed into the conversation with Ms. Kaplan, that I almost missed my stop at Union Square, but I said goodbye and she thanked me for listening.  Oh how I wanted to stay on that train, but I hopped out on to the platform and by the time I turned around, the train was pulling away.  Mrs. Kaplan was smiling through the window and waved...I waved back.  That day was a new day for me.  I started to look at the mentally ill much differently.  I had a new respect for the medical field in diagnosing such diseases and caring for those who suffer from them.  So, when I saw the recent video of Ms. Campbell, it brought me right back to that day with Mrs. Kaplan and the conversation I had with her on the train.  Mrs. Kaplan, wherever you are, THANK YOU for making me aware of my ignorance to the subject of mental health.  Since then, I support as many programs as I can, that come across my desk.  I encourage YOU to do the same!

*Recently, Campbell's grandmother, Doris C. Moore and her father, Ellis Gordon Jr., released a statement to Essence in response the video clip circulating the web:

"Our hearts have been deeply touched by the outpouring of love that so many of you have freely displayed in the past several days about our beloved Maia C. Campbell. Our spirits have been lifted by your words of support and your acts of kindness, and we have been encouraged to continue our efforts to assist our daughter and granddaughter to become whole again.


As a family, we have been struggling with Maia in her illness for quite some time. We continue to hold fast to our faith and hope that some day she will realize that healing will begin when she decides to reach out and accept the help and treatment that have been offered to her. We all have challenges in life that we must face, but when compound problems such as mental illness and substance abuse are prevalent, it can appear that there is no way out. However, our sustaining faith and trust in God compels us to believe differently. We strongly believe that Maia will be healed.


We also know that Maia's mother, the late Bebe Moore Campbell, who devoted much of her later years in life to mental health awareness and education, along with her family members and friends would welcome your prayers and support for Maia's sustained recovery. In addition, we urge your support for efforts to diagnose and treat mental illness in our community.


We ask that you not only pray for Maia's wellness, but also commit to understanding this insidious disease, which is devastating our loved ones and community. Help erase the "stigma" of mental illness, which is a very serious barrier to treatment, so that we can help those with the disease to live wholesome lives. Call for more treatment options and prevention strategies, have compassion for those stricken with this illness, and help guide those who have been unable to find their way to appropriate treatment. Additionally, support those families who are struggling to cope with loved ones with the disease, because mental illness affects the entire family.


Finally, we ask that you support Bebe Moore Campbell National Minority Mental Health Awareness Month, which was established by Congressional Resolution, H. Con. Res. 134, in April 2008, and is celebrated during the month of July each year. It was established to enhance public awareness of mental illness, especially within minority communities. Please join us in this effort to bring attention to this problem, to identify resources and to strengthen the focus on treatment along with research relative to minorities and mental illness. This is the work that we continue on behalf of Bebe Moore Campbell.


Let us move forward, face our challenge and turn that challenge into victory and a celebration of life."

*According to recent reports this week, Ms. Campbell is currently in a treatment facility. We wish her all the best!*

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